which man is worse off?

It is incredible how much lying is going on all around us continually. We lie to ourselves first and see if others can be convinced of it. We lie because the other persons lies. Of course, we think someone else is lying because, aren't we lying, so then why isn't he lying? This is the danger of calling someone else a liar, we may be nakedly telegraphing our perspectives. We lie without realizing it. The reason is there is a head of foam on everything we speak as it is so that when time fades, lies start popping up out of the suds all over the place. A lie is notoriously difficult to pin down. Perhaps we mis-spoke, or maybe we mis-heard. Then, if we want to box someone in where we want them and they do not want to be, we will hold them to our view of what their words meant. You are saying such and so we will say, trying to control their words with our own. If they can be targeted as a liar then it will cover the hostility we hold for their other view with which we disagree. If we could just play back a transcript of the past 24 hours of our exact dialog, it would surprise us how often we find ourselves lined up in the grey area of possibly telling a lie or some other embarrassment. But of the more deliberate lies of greater magnitude, which man is worse off, the one who tells a lie or the one who believes it?